Monday, December 29, 2014

In Condemnation and Praise of "Hipsters"


It seems to me that the wave of the paradoxical "mainstream hipsters" has largely passed as we all knew it would.  

Unfortunately, the fad of hipster culture will likely be remembered by oddly dressed, snobbish jerks.  I say it is unfortunate because hipsters, in my mind came about in the most wonderfully pure and passionate way possible.  Let me explain.

You remember that kid or kids in high school who genuinely didn't care what anybody thought of them?  I'm not talking about the rebel, or the goth, or the poorly groomed kids.  Lots of kids SAY they don't care, but the kids I'm referring to actually didn't give a crap. they probably weren't popular in a conventional way, but people knew who they were and most probably liked them.  These kids were likely hipsters before being a hipster was a thing.  They were literally hipsters before it was cool.

These original hipsters had no title.  They were un-classifiable.  They were the Originals.*  They marched to the beat of their own drum and pursued their own interests.  They were passionate about lots of things.  They sought after and found music, art, movies, and clothing that spoke to them. Whether something was popular or indie or obscure was irrelevant because they didn't care who else liked it, as long as they did it was good enough for them.  They were not an exclusive bunch of people, but they placed great value on having passion for things.  Self-perceived inadequacy would likely cause a non-Original to excuse himself from their company before being chased away.  If an Original loved something they showed it not by using it as leverage to get noticed, but by delving into the deep tracks of that bands first EP or by finding that director's unreleased student film.  If an Original liked Beyonce (a totally valid choice), they not only liked her most recent chart topping single, but they went all the way back to Destiny Child's 1999 "The Writing's on the Wall" and beyond**.  Their unspoken model was "if you aren't completely in love with your favorite things, they must not be that big of a deal to you."

So how did this hipster wave come about from the Originals?  How did the movement based on not caring what pop culture valued suddenly become valued by pop culture?

The short answer: Posers.

Some chicks and/or dudes saw how cool these independent-thinking, passionate souls were, and they wanted to be cool like them.  Here's the problem: they didn't develop their own interests and delve deep into them.  Instead they just made themselves into a cheap knock-off, an unwitting parody, a living breathing mockery of all that was awesome about the Originals.  Because of the Originals' love of finding forgotten tracks from artists they found, the first hipsters assumed that the one qualification for "cool" music was that "you probably haven't heard of them" and that any displays of enjoyment of well-known artists must be ironic.

This bastardized version of that-awesome-kid-in-high-school caught on and was given the name "hipster" somewhere along the way.  It became so popular that clothes were assumed to have to be weird to be trendy.  Instead of a genuine interest in clothing found in thrift stores, online, or that had been handed down from a great aunt, clothes with wolf heads or hot dog patterns started popping up in shopping malls and department stores.  Heck!  Even the iconic hipster mustache has been slapped on shirts, notebooks, and necklaces!

So now what?  Are we better off or worse off with "I mustache you a question" T-shirts?  On the bright side, a few Indie bands hit it big and cardigans are now easier to find.  The internet and music sharing/streaming sites have made the job of finding deeper tracks way easier.  But I, along with lots of you, get to react with an "oh brother" when I see particularly stereotypical mainstream hipsters who are obviously trying too hard to be trendy instead of being themselves in spite of what the masses would have them do like the Originals did.  But I think there are more consequences than just sore necks from shaking our heads so often.

The biggest impact that the hipster movement had on America --aside from revitalizing thrift shops across the nation -- is that it has directly assaulted people who are sincerely and truly honest-to-goodness individuals in their tastes and preferences.  Our collective knee-jerk reaction is to assume that someone with patches on the sleeves of a cardigan with unique facial hair must be a hipster of the shallow, vapid, obnoxious variety.  The kids who know what they are all about are no longer seen as the genuinely cool kids.  They're now assumed to be failed attempts at trendiness.

To sum up, I hope that the hipster trend as we know it is over and done.  May it die a speedy death and may we all forget it mercifully soon.  Then I hope we can try again.  Let the unique kids be unique.  Let a new generation of Originals be born, and next time we notice how cool they are, I sure hope they inspire us to put some effort into developing our own interests instead of making a farce of theirs.




*My wife warned me about trying to give a name to this unique and very loosely associated groups of kids.  She argued quite persuasively that by giving them a title, I'm robbing them of what they truly were: Unclassified individuals.  However, for the sake of this post, I committed to the word Original to describe them for brevity and clarity of point.  Sorry sweetie.

**I'd like to formally apologize to Beyonce as I mistakenly thought that she was part of TLC before launching her solo career.  I have not yet dived into Beyonce's tracks, but I thought she is a great example and a great artist.

Friday, June 20, 2014

Sean, Ana and Eleanor update:

My uncle Ryan asked what everybody's summer plans were in just two words.  My two words seemed like I was searching for pity, but I'm not.  The words were "Expectations, Disappointment."

I've been busy this summer.  I'm directing a show with my sister Melissa in Lehi, working in the day time, and trying to write some psychology papers for academic journals.  I am about to submit a paper that I wrote with a fellow student and mentored by a faculty member.  It's about relationship satisfaction's effects on depression.  HOPEFULLY it'll get published and I'll be rich and famous.

The three of us have been living at my parents' house which has saved our bacon.  I am in school until December and only have part time work.  Ana has her hands full (literally) with our baby girl.  We will be moving sometime within a month or two to a place in Provo that has subsidized rent for us struggling newly-weds.  It'll be nice to have our own place.  Thanks Mom and Dad for all your help.  We'll miss you.  You'll miss us.  We'll be glad to go.  You'll be glad to see us leave.  I think that's pretty normal.

Ana is having adventures in motherhood.  Eleanor keeps her busy.  I am so proud of how great she is at teaching our little girl how to do new things.  She's especially good at making sure Eleanor eats.  Our little 5.5 pounder we brought home from the hospital 6 months ago is now over 17lbs.  She's a giant.

Eleanor is learning to pick up food and she's good at making messes both on and in her pants.  I couldn't be a prouder papi.

So here's what I meant by my two words - Expectations and disappointment.  They don't mean quite what you think.

1. Expectations: I have high expectations for this summer.  Publishing, saving up money for the school year, starting a class on Tuesday, creating a successful production of Crazy for You, moving, etc.  At the same time I've been hoping to have some awesome family adventures too.

2.  Disappointment:  One job isn't giving me the type of hours I thought they would, so we're not seeing the bigger paychecks I had hoped for during the summer months.  And Ana and I get so tired that it's hard to have lots of adventures.  We've done one hike, seen two plays, a movie, and been to a museum (all of which Eleanor disrupted.  But those are the disruptions that you come to expect and don't mind TOO much).  We haven't been to a waterpark or visited a national or state park or some of the other things we've hoped to do yet.

So with the first half of our summer behind us, there's a little disappointment, and still high expectations.

But that's kind of what life is I think.  You do your best and always wish you could be able to fit in a little bit more.  More money, more fun, more sleep, more adventures, more family.  So that's why I'm working 12 hours today, and why Ana and I already have our tickets to Shakespeare in the park, a rodeo, and the OK Go concert.

Sunday, February 12, 2012

Once upon a time I had a blog

I had a blog about how awesome my life would be if all the things that I wished would happen would happen.  Then one day I quit blogging and started doing those things.

I bought a motorscooter.
I grew a mustache.
I bought new large framed glasses.
I got a haircut I don't quite understand.
I have a smoking hot half-Japanese girlfriend (Don't look at her!).
I crashed a motorscooter.
I dropped out of chemistry classes forever.
I ate a ton of sushi.
I occasionally slap my roommates in the face.
I give ridiculously good relationship advice.
I have people ask me if I'm a hipster and/or if I'm in a band.
I hang out with married people.
I study philosophy.

So basically life is good and that's all the facebook statuses I never bothered posting because I never think of facebook.

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Thursday, February 17, 2011

New Shoes

Yesterday I got a pair of shoes that I was told is "the Cadillac of Asics." 

I also went had lunch with the "best friend" of a missionary companion.  She has a missionary in the field and a current boyfriend.  And there I was in the middle of it all.  I felt like I knew her for years even though we had just bumped into each other long enough to set up a time for lunch. 

The poor break dancing club was largely ignored at the Wilkinson Center as people ate and they "broke it down" on stage. 

I met up with two mission buddies and we caught up a little bit.  It's interesting what things bring people together.  If it weren't for Zimbabwe I don't know if I'd have ever gotten two know these two gents.

I went on a date last night with a girl I met by agreeing to do a ballet.  I did the ballet as an excuse to see a good (really beautiful) friend of mine.  Well, my friend got engaged and I never stood a chance.  I knew it all along, and I wasn't expecting anything, but seriously!  What kind of dude does a ballet so he can chill with another man's fiance?  Especially a guy who has no intention of disturbing the relationship?  Anyway...I'm glad I did it.

I took my little ballerina to eat pumpkin pie, then see The Princess Bride for $2.  And whaddayaknow? It was an awesome date.  Totally cheap.  I got lost.  It was really cheap.  And it was an awesome date.  I set up two more activities with said ballerina and they hopefully will be just as awesome.

So what's my point here?

I guess it's this: go with the flow.  If I paid more attention to the price tag than the off-set laces, I wouldn't be wearing Cadillacs on my feet.  If I  didn't agree to a lunch with a stranger, I'd miss out on an instant relationship.  If I had paid more attention to the break dancing team, I'd have been more bored.  If I didn't give some missionaries on the dark continent a chance, I wouldn't have had some chums to reminisce with.  If I didn't agree to do something way out there for a friend, I wouldn't have met a ballerina.  And if I spent more money on the date, I never would've known if she'd be okay with dating a guy who is ruled more by miserliness than thrift.

So, in the words of Kel Mitchel's character Invisible Boy in Mystery Men "Just go with it."

Friday, February 11, 2011

Tiny Ants

As I and hundreds of other students scurry around campus in and out of buildings I can't help but make the comparison to tiny ants.  Take a look with me from above:

The main ant hill is, appropriately, an underground library.  The student ants criss cross collecting food and potential partners all around.  Every ant seems completely aimless.  After all, even I wandered into a building trying to figure out what I most needed to do next, then only filled my water bottle before exiting to my next destination on the other side of campus.  It all seems pretty random and insignificant.
 
Have you ever seen those two ant people who can't seem to side step one another but kind of crawl on top of each other?  They're becoming more frequent, frantically using their feelers, with Valentine's Day approaching.  Then of course there was that one guy ant who picks up a bread crumb the size of a corrola and carries it to his dorm for the party....

Ants are stupid.

Thursday, February 10, 2011

Falsified Flashback #1

A few weeks ago I went to a movie with a friend and met two of her friends from school, a guy and a girl. I was at least somewhat disinterested in what they were talking about but I got the jist: a girl thought that the guy had feelings for her. "I really don't know why Anne would even think that. I've never done or said anything to even suggest that I liked her."
Here is where my mind wandered. I assumed that this guy was oblivious to himself and I had a great flashback of his interactions with Anne on his behalf.

#1- * "Hi Anne." "Hey!" "can I sit here?" "sure!" "man I'm tired, I hope you don't mind if I doze.." then guy lays his head on her knee.

#2- * "Hey you got a little ketchup.. Here let me get it.." He reaches over and wipes her chin gently with his finger then tucks her hair behind her ear. "There ya go." said with a wink. Of course, Anne is glowing.

#3-* Innapropriately dancing at a club: "Hey after this song do you wanna go to my place and make-out a bit in the hottub?"

~~~Back in real-time:
"I just don't understand WHY this girl would ever think I had feelings for her!"